Disclosure:This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Levana. The opinions and text are all mine.
Sleep when they sleep. These words are spoken no less than ten thousand time to every expecting parent, and it truly is great advice. Except for that part where you still need to shower, work, cook, take care of the house, and you know, get on with life. That's where the art of working through nap time comes in.
I never know exactly how long I'll have while the little one snoozes, so I make it a point to pack every moment of his sweet sweet slumber to the gills. I treat nap time sort of like bonus time. I might use it to catch up on work, catch a much needed shower, grab a bite to eat, prep our evening meal, or even sneak in a quick craft project.
...And sometimes I spend his nap on the couch binge watching trashy tv shows.
Anyway, however you choose to make use of those precious napping hours, having a great baby monitor is key. Being able to check on your little pumpkin without actually opening the bedroom door allows you to go about your nap time tasks with your mind at ease.
I was given the Willow™ 5” HD Touchscreen PTZ Video Baby Monitor to check out in advance of this blog post and I can honestly say that I was impressed. The camera has a high definition camera with pan, tilt zoom, and night vision - perfect for babies or toddlers that move around a lot as they sleep. The camera is extremely quiet too, so you don't have to worry about its motor waking your little one if you do choose to adjust the camera angle.
It's also incredibly helpful when checking on toddlers who are out of the crib. Since we moved C into a twin bed (mostly for mama's comfort, to tell you the truth) he's had the freedom to get up and get into pretty much anything and everything. Being able to swivel the camera around the room (and zoom!) lets me see what he's up to. If he's quietly reading books, I can snag an extra ten minutes of mama time before going to get him. If he's scaling the walls, I can intervene right away. It's pretty flipping awesome.
Besides being great for simply watching little ones, the Willow also comes with a ton of really cool extras like built-in feeding and nap timers, a temperature sensor, Talk to Baby™ or Parent Two-Way Communication, and the ability to play nature sounds and lullabies. The monitor uses a 5" touch screen, making it super easy to set up, operate, and customize features.
The 500 foot transmission range and 12-hour battery life of the monitor is also a big plus for busy parents. It gives you the freedom to move all over the house while staying in range. Not having to worry about plugging the monitor in as you go about your nap time tasks makes a world of difference. I can tote my monitor from the kitchen as I formulate recipes, out to the sun room to take photos, and then up to my office to work on a blog post - all without having to plug or unplug anything.
My inner tech geek loves that the Willow uses small private networks to transmit monitor data - discouraging potential hackers. Levana is a pioneer in high-tech monitors and puts a huge emphasis on safety, which is obviously a huge concern for parents.
I put together this cute little video to share a peek into how we make the most of nap time at our house. C loved starring in the mini-film, of course, and has asked me to play "his movie" no less than one million times since we finished it!
Click here for the easy-to share, short-form version
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This morning my 2 year old son insisted on wearing a frog costume to Target. I pick my battles with this fiercely individualistic soul. He wore the frog suit - but also wore shoes. That's a win in my book.
We had a little discussion on our way over about the importance of staying with Mama while in the store. We even made a deal that if he stayed with me the whole time he could pick out a small treat. There would be a bonus treat if he could manage to stay inside the cart the whole time.
"Ok Mommy.", he says.
I ask him to repeat the point of this talk back to me - just so I know he gets it. (Every now and then, this little exercise actually works.)
"No run away. I'll remember, Mommy."
About five minutes into our trip, C stands up in the cart's child seat, does his best Incredible Hulk impersonation, and snaps the silly little safety strap wide open. He quickly proceeds to pull up his legs and JUMP out.
I manage to catch his wiggling, wriggling, inexplicably heavy body about halfway to the ground before letting out a big sigh and reminding him of his promise not to bolt.
"Yes, Mommy", he says.
And so we shop. Me reminding and cajoling constantly in order to keep the child in my sight, him stopping to RIBBIT and hop at other children as they pass by. Strangers giggle. Kids shriek. C makes demands for random treats as we pass an endless parade of colorful end-cap displays.
When I stop to consult my various coupon apps before purchasing this week's giant tub of coffee he begins pulling things off of the shelf and dumping them into (and under) the cart.
"I need this. Need oatmeal. Need this one. I have this one, Mama."
I pause to appreciate the fact that he hasn't made any mad dashes yet when he spots a little girl at the other end of the aisle.
RIBBIT! HOP. HOP. HOP.
He hops up and rams into her shouting RIBBIT!!!!
The little girl bursts into tears. I apologize and stick C back in the cart. He complains. I explain. We keep shopping, but in minutes he out-muscles and escapes the cart once again, gives me one wicked grin, and bolts.
He's running at break-neck speed down the aisles, through the grocery section, and to my advantage, toward the checkout.
When I finally catch him he is giggling madly. I try to get him back in the cart but he turns his body into a big wet noodle, making it physically impossible to pick up.
Since I can't lift him up, I pin him down instead. I'm winded and frustrated and unsure of what to even do next but doing my best to keep it cool as we wrestle on the floor of the checkout section. I've learned that things like yelling and threatening have zero effect on this kid. I have to find a way to calm him down instead.
Meanwhile, I am pretty much dying of embarrassment. Everyone sees us. Everyone has an opinion. I grit my teeth and try not to look at anybody's face while my kid squeals and chatters on the linoleum.
A Target employee comes over and offers to help get my groceries from the cart to the belt. I thank her profusely and take advantage of the distraction to buckle C into the cart again. Ellen, this morning's grocery shopping angel, then proceeds to play peek-a-boo with him while I finish getting check-out. The fellow behind the register tells me stories of his own childhood and how he once ran away from his parents during a trip to Disneyworld.
Their kindness helped me laugh off the chaos and guide my little frog through the end of our trip without any tears. On our way out he, of course, gets out of the cart one last time to try and steal someone's handicapped shopping cart and then play with the job application computers in the customer service area.
When we get to the doors he lets me strap him in one last time - accepting that the parking lot was just too dangerous a place for kids to walk. As I load our bags into the trunk a couple with a smaller toddler walks over to us. They coo over C's frog costume and he treats them to a couple of shy RIBBITs. That's when the mother totally catches me off guard by saying how impressed she was at how well behaved he is. Apparently they had noticed him sitting there in the cart and watching me load the trunk as they were parking.
I nearly choke. "HA!", I said. "You should have seen him inside." I regale them with a quickly summarized version of his morning escapade. She laughs and thanks me for reassuring her that she isn't the only mother with a wild, bolting child.
I didn't say it at the time - mostly because it didn't sink in at that moment - but I'm thankful for her comment too. It was a reminder that we only see a slice of other people's lives, of other kid's behavior and their parent's reactions to it. Sadly, our trip this morning was pretty typical for C. He is a challenging shopper. With a food blogging mama he has no shortage of experience going to the store, yet he seems to get more wild with each passing day.
I often bribe him to stay in the cart by opening boxes of snacks, buying him balloons, or even pulling out a lollipop. Unfortunately, food never buys me much time, and balloons are prohibitively expensive. The worst thing, perhaps, about the bribery is that it earns me nearly as many dirty looks and snide comments as I get while chasing him through the store.
People look and see a child being spoiled. They don't see the exhaustion and desperation behind the box of cheese crackers. They don't understand what it's like to lose sight of their toddler in a crowded store - to abandon your purse, cell phone, and cart full of groceries to run screaming through Walmart after a runaway kid.
It can be maddening, mortifying, and worst of all, it can be discouraging. Lately I've been watching the other kids in the other carts and wondering why mine can't just ride in the seat like everybody else? I wonder if it's me. Am I just a crappy mother?
All those doubts are compounded by every nasty stare, every rude comment, every grouchy cashier or horrible old lady who encounters us during a trip to the grocery store. There have been times that I've sobbed in the car after leaving the checkout - feeling like a complete failure for not being able to control my own child.
This morning I remembered that while I may have limited control over my toddler, I do have control over my perspective. I can, and should, remember that my perception of other families only tells a tiny sliver of their story. In those instances when I torture myself over their apparent perfection I'm judging them and myself from an incomplete picture.
When strangers choose to be nasty instead of being kind they are doing the very same thing. They don't know me. They don't know my child or the unique challenges we face as a family. They are choosing to pass judgement on a situation they know nothing about.
That kind of judgement is crap. And it's not worth holding on to.
Let it go, mamas. Let it go.
Disclosure: This post is sponsored by Carter’s; however, all thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.
During the summer my little one spent quite a lot of time au naturale. That is to say - in the buff.
The baby buff.
I'm a big fan of baby buff. It's arguably the best look ever for people under one year old. It's comfortable, versatile, and really works well with their whole brand new human vibe.
Then autumn arrives and a chill hits the air. Rain starts to fall and the promise of colder weather looms ahead.
It's time to put some clothes on, baby.
The folks at Carter's asked me to put together a checklist of essential baby clothes for the Fall. I'm a fairly practical mama, so my list is short and sweet.
That doesn't mean that I don't indulge in the occasional pair of tiny suspenders or denim jackets. I am not immune to temptation - especially when it comes to tiny cute clothes.
But this list is all about the basics - six essential items for the autumn baby!
Carter's selection of baby clothes makes dressing even the most free-wheeling babe a breeze. Take my nephew here, a natural born nudist. Even he feels cozy in a soft cotton bodysuit.
Basic items like the classic bodysuit, tiny little socks, and soft stretchy baby pants keep little ones comfy and warm without a lot of fuss.
Bodysuits are probably to most essential item in the baby wardrobe. Available in short or long sleeve, with or without cutesy graphics, and complete with quick snaps and envelope shoulders you can get them on and off in moments. Wear them alone or under pants, skirts, or overalls. Anything goes with this baby wardrobe basic.
I start off almost every baby outfit with a bodysuit. They are easy to change into and out of in case of (ahem) diaper trouble. AND they match pretty much everything.
Socks are another key item in keeping the autumn baby properly outfitted. As many a random stranger has told me, "your baby needs socks." I have rolled my eyes at these people plenty of times, but keeping tiny feet warm during chilly weather is actually kind of important.
Baby Pants is not just an incredible nickname for your child, it's also a very important item for their autumn wardrobe. I like to keep my basic collection of baby pants soft, comfy, and stretchy.
These are even available with feet. Just think, you can readily avoid the nosy sock strangers by dressing your kid in pants with built-in socks.
Then there are the extras - those fun little items that help prepare baby for cool fall weather while also making him EVEN CUTER. (Not so sure cuter is a real word, but I'm just going to go with it. Ok?)
Hoodies, Vests, and Jumpsuits make it simple to add or remove layers as needed - keeping baby ready for cold snaps or outdoor adventuring.
Booties and itty bitty Crib Shoes are great for providing extra warmth while seriously upping your baby's style game.
I think my little CC wore booties all of one or two times during his babyhood but the cuteness factor was pretty intense. Sometimes I wish we'd lived in a cooler climate just so I could have taken more baby bootie pictures. Those of you with Northern babes had better take advantage!
Pajamas are one of those things that sometimes take the parents of Spring and Summer babies by surprise. During the hotter months you may not need baby jammies at all. But when the weather gets cooler babies love feeling snug in long sleeves and footy pajamas.
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Disclosure: This post includes a sponsored mention of Prevention Magazine's R3 Summit. My opinions are my own.
When I was invited to this year's R3 Summit by Prevention Magazine I wondered what my big takeaway would be for 2016. Last year I attended with Baby C strapped to my chest. He made a great companion for the day, but his need for a nap meant not staying the whole day. I thought that surely this year would be different. With C left safely at home with an Auntie I would sit in on every session, partake in each wellness workshop and even get in a workout or two. I was really excited for Mama's day out!
The universe had other plans and managed to hit my poor boy with a nasty cold at just the wrong time. Instead of spending that Saturday at the Summit I stayed home and cared for my sick little boy. Trading yoga and celebrity interviews for boogers and nebulizers stung a little - but I know that I made the right choice. Besides, I hadn't missed the entire Summit. I did sneak out the night before for the opening reception and Bob Roth's talk on meditation.
Bob Roth, also known simply as Meditation Bob, has been teaching people from all walks of life about meditation for decades. His particular specialty is called Transcendental Meditation, a mantra-based meditation touted by both celebrities and Roth's non-profit, The David Lynch Foundation, for lowering dangerous cortisol levels, reducing stress, and helping to heal a laundry list of psychological issues from addiction to PTSD. The David Lynch Foundation provides TM training to inner-city students, veterans, and other communities who can benefit from their help.
Roth's talk left me inspired to make meditation a priority in my own life. While I do have a habit of meditating that habit is pretty undisciplined. I tend to meditate when the mood strikes me. Experts, like Bob Roth, recommend twice daily meditation, so moving forward I am going to make that my goal.
Now how does a busy working mama make time for meditation? For me, the key is choosing practices that work with my erratic lifestyle. That means that the techniques must be brief, targeted, and very simple. Here are a few ideas to get us all started.
Mindful Mama: This is the meditation that saw me threw countless sleepless nights during my son's first year. It is a great coping practice for those times when you are feeling totally tapped out and pushed to your limit. Start out by taking a few deep breaths and deciding to quiet the swirling thoughts and persistent desires (like your need for sleep!) going on in your mind. Shift your focus to observation mode. Take a moment to simply observe your body and the space that surrounds you. Feel the air on your skin, the weight of the child in your arms. Focus on the breath rising and falling from your chest and from theirs. Feel the hot baby breath on your neck or the soft rug under your toes. Listen to the quiet (or the buzzing chaos) of the world around you. Try to exist in that moment, aware only of the present. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe.
One Track Mind: This meditation works well for those sacred moments when you are actually alone. This may not happen often (or at all) for some mamas, but if you have a ten-minute window during the day of peace and quiet this is a simple way to make the most out of that precious solitude. Pick a single song to use as both the focus and the timer of your meditation. There aren't really any rules for which song to choose, but I like using instrumental music that feels calm and soothing.
1-2-3: I like to practice this visualization-style meditation right before going to sleep. It helps quiet my mind after a busy day - not always an easy task! Start by closing your eyes and taking a few deep breaths. When you are ready to begin, inhale as you visualize the number one and repeat the word "one" over and over until you finish your breath and exhale. Repeat this with the number two and so on up until the number ten, then back down to number one again.
Mama Mantra: When I was getting ready to have my first baby the midwives in our practice advised creating a mantra to help get through labor. I didn't come up with my mantra until about four hours into active labor, but when it came to me it was just right. During the night I labored I repeated the mantra "Just one minute" through each contraction. Later, after my son was born and I found myself losing my cool during the long sleepless nights I brought the mantra back. Only this time I repeated "just one year". To use the mantra I would close my eyes, breath deeply, then repeat the phrase as I also visualized the words in my head. I would repeat this for several minutes or until my feelings of frustration, anger, or despair subsided.
Do you have your own daily meditation? I'd love to hear about more methods for including meditation in your daily routine.
A gift guide for kids between 1 and 2 years old.
So you want to buy something for your loved one's little boy or girl and you aren't sure what? My first and best advice would be to ask the parent. Surprises are fun, but birthdays and holidays are also times where Moms and Dads have an opportunity to see their kids furnished with stuff that they might really need - like new pajamas, shoes, or specific toys and books to fill a developmental need.
Even if you get kiddo something on Mom and Dad's list it will still be a surprise to the child so reach out! There could be something Junior really needs this year.
If Mom and Dad don't have a specific wish list for their little one, or if you really want to surprise them with something unexpected, here are some suggestions that should be a hit with most kids between 1 and 2 AND their parents.
Something to Push - Walking is still a big thrill to most toddlers so having something to push around the room, especially something that is noisy, holds stuff, or animated will really tickle them pink.
Something to Ride - Kids this age love to ride around on things with wheels. These toys are just the right height for little legs to get their scoot on.
A Play Set with Animals - Little imaginations begin taking off after kids hit one year or so. Suddenly kids go from just banging and throwing toys to making them do stuff, like dance, kiss, and moo.
Tot-Friendly Art Supplies - Coloring, painting, and collage make for some very messy but super educational fun. Look for products that are non-toxic, unscented, and easy to handle.
Musical Toys That Won't Drive Them (Completely) Crazy - I heard recently that "jamming" with kids might be even more beneficial to childrens' communication skills than reading! Plus, it's fun to make music with little ones. These noisy toys are in key and totally analog making them a relatively pleasant choice for everyone involved.
Books, Books, and More Books - It's hard to have too many, especially when your kid cycles through his entire collection every single day. You can't really go wrong when picking books for toddlers but sturdy board books and stories that rhyme are my personal favorites.
Help Them Get Fed - Feeding a little kid is a real adventure. These gadgets and gizmos can help make the task a little less daunting.
Clothes, Shoes, and Pajamas - Kids are ALWAYS growing so kids almost always need play clothes, pajamas, and shoes. Have fun picking out cute outfits but be sure to include a gift receipt just in case they grow out of it or the season changes before it can be used. My sister happens to make some of the best toddler clothes around. Her handmade pants use special folds to grow with kids. CC has been able to wear the same pair of pants for over a year now! Plus, they are really stinking cute. Check out her shop at BubBubShop.com.
Other Fun Stuff - These are a few other things that CC has really enjoyed at this age. He loves to explore, inspect, and "help".
Other Gift Ideas
Gifts to avoid
After I had CC I was blessed to be surrounded by friends and family bearing delicious baked goods. If you've never gone through it, let me tell you, birth is utterly exhausting. It wipes you out - and for most mamas it is just the beginning. From there it is a long and arduous (though in its own way magical and wonderful) season of life. And I do, literally, mean season. The first three months of life with a baby is pretty intense. Whether you are breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, or feeding through a combination of the two, your body and soul needs tons of support to make it through in one piece.
Enter the lactation cookie. These little nuggets are meant to combine nutrition and pleasure into one pretty little snack. I ate quite a few different kinds of cookies while I was postpartum (no big surprise there - hehehe) and this recipe was created using my favorite parts of each one. I opted to make these into bars instead of traditional drop cookies seeing as they were exceptionally thick and hearty. Plus, to me, a bar feels a little less like a dessert and a little more like a power food - which these certainly qualify for.
Before I dive into the recipe I have an announcement to make! I am working with Spring House Press on a brand new book! This time around I will be focusing on natural and DIY solutions for Mama and Baby during pregnancy and Baby's first year. It is a subject near and dear to my heart and I can't wait to start trying out all of the fun projects I have planned.
Like The Natural Beauty Solution, my second book will include recipes for natural skin and hair care - but this time it will also include recipes for the kitchen and simple sewing and craft projects to indulge your creative side. It's going to be a bit longer and more involved than The Natural Beauty Solution - with tons of input from experts including midwives, pediatricians, herbalists, and yoga teachers! I want this book to be a helpful companion to every mother who wants to incorporate natural solutions into her and her child's life.
The book won't be coming out for a while, but you can keep up with news on The Natural Beauty Solution AND The Handmade Mama by subscribing to my book news email list. In the meantime, I am giving you this recipe as a little preview of what's to come. Creating the ultimate postpartum cookie was my top priority for this book and I am happy to have finished the recipe at just the right time for sharing my news. Yipee!
Baby Mama Postpartum/Lactation Cookie Bars
Makes about 28 bars
The cookie starts off with a classic sugar, flour, and butter base, with a dose of iron-rich molasses. Whole oats, flax seeds, hemp hearts, brewer's yeast, and almond flour give the cookies a rich array of protein and nutrients. Dark chocolate chips are added for the shear pleasure of them. If you prefer, try swapping out the chocolate for raisins or another type of dried fruit.
I jokingly forbid Scott to eat these as he is NOT lactating, but these cookies do make an awesome snack for any postpartum mama - lactating or not - and for anyone else helping to care for baby during those early months (or years). Be sure to make and freeze extra so there will be plenty for Daddy, Grandma, Aunties, and anyone else who is down there in the trenches with you.
One more thing: I made this recipe in a large baking dish - the kind of thing you would use for a lasagna or casserole. I haven't experimented with other pan sizes yet, so if you use a smaller pan or dish just keep an eye on the cookies as they bake. They may bake quicker or take extra time if you use a different sized pan as the thickness of the bars will change. Just watch them carefully as they bake - keeping an eye on the color and hardness of the cookies. You are looking for a noticeably darker bottom (deep golden-brown, but not burnt) and a consistent top. To check the bottom, carefully lift the edge of the parchment paper to peek beneath the cookies. When the cookies are finished baking the top of the pan will have a uniform appearance. The inner part of the cookie will look almost as dry as the outer edges.
- 2 tablespoons ground flax seed
- 4 tablespoons water
- 1 cup unsalted butter, softened
- 1 cup sugar
- 1/3 cup light brown sugar
- 2 eggs
- 1/3 cup molasses*
- 1 teaspoon vanilla
- 2 1/4 cups whole wheat flour or all-purpose gluten-free flour
- 1/4 cup almond flour/meal
- 1/4 cup hemp hearts (hulled)
- 4 tablespoons brewer's yeast
- 1 teaspoon salt
- 1 teaspoon baking soda
- 1 teaspoon cinnamon
- 2 cups old fashioned oats
- 1 cup dark chocolate chips
*Use blackstrap molasses for a richer flavor that goes great with raisins!
- Preheat the oven to 350F.
- Combine the flax seeds and water in a small bowl and set aside.
- Cream the butter and sugars together in the bowl of an electric stand mixer fitted with the paddle attachment. Beat for ten minutes - or until fluffy.
- Add the soaked flax seeds, eggs, molasses, and vanilla and mix until well blended. (Scrape the sides down before blending to make sure everything mixes evenly.)
- Whisk together the whole wheat flour, almond flour, hemp hearts, brewer's yeast, salt, baking soda, and cinnamon.
- Add the dry ingredients in two parts while mixing continuously on a slow speed. Mix until just combined.
- Add the oats and chocolate chips in on a slow speed. Mix until just combined.
- Line a 10" x 15" inch (4 quart) baking dish with parchment paper. Drop the cookie dough into the dish and do your best to spread it evenly across the dish - touch each side and corner. It doesn't have to be completely even. It's OK if it is a bit lumpy.
- Bake the bars for about 30 minutes or until the bottom of the bars are a deep golden brown and the middle of the pan appears to be thoroughly baked. Rotate the pan about halfway through cooking. (You may need to bake for an extra 10-15 minutes if using gluten-free flour.)
- Remove the dish from the oven and allow the bars to cool for one hour before slicing them into bars. Fully cooled bars can be frozen for up to three months in airtight packaging.
Disclosure: I was compensated by Minted.com for sharing a review of their retail site. As always, my words, ideas, opinions, body, soul, etc. are my own.
I've discovered that having a child means being surprised on a daily basis - not just by random shrieks or mystery wetness but by how quickly these tiny humans become aware of the world around them. It seems like every day CC does something that I had no idea he could do yet.
For example, he began showing an interest in artwork when he was just a few months old. It started with a glossy stare at a colorful print, then later he became so excited by certain pictures or photographs that he would wave his arms and coo or chuckle. These days he can spend minutes (these are like hours in baby time) gazing at a picture in a book, tracing every line on a page and smiling when he finds one that is especially compelling.
Our friend, Tara, gave us a painting she made of a chimp before CC was born and it is by far is favorite piece of art in the house. He loves to rub his little hand over the chunky texture of the paint.
He seriously can't get enough of that chimp. He's similarly enthralled with every other piece of visual art in the house - so much so that I've had to move anything framed with glass or made of ceramic that his ever-growing arms can reach. The thing about kids and art is that it isn't enough for them to just look. They want to touch too. Some might even say that they need to.
I was really impressed when my sister (who blogs over at Scissorina) recently installed a miniature kid-friendly art gallery in my nephew's room. Sarah chose some prints and photographs that she knew he would love - including some artwork made by CC and a family portrait - and then framed them in simple frames made of wood and plastic. By removing the glass she made the pictures safe for the rough treatment of toddler hands, and sturdy enough to withstand all of his curiosity and appreciation.
The folks at Minted.com contacted me recently to see if I would like to try out some of their beautiful products which include prints, stationary, photo gifts, and even fabric by the yard - all featuring artwork created by independent designers. Many of their products can be customized too so you can make prints, cards, and party favors with your name on them. They even have a gorgeous line of wedding and party invitations.
After browsing their site, I knew this was the perfect opportunity to furnish CC with a little art gallery of his own. I picked out three prints for his room and personalized each of them. Minted.com's limited edition framed prints start at just $29.00 and use plexi-glass - a big plus if you are decorating a child's room.
Tips for Sharing Art With Little Kids
- Make It Safe - Avoid using frames with glass or breakable embellishments. Instead, choose simple sturdy frames with plastic to cover the print - or just remove the glass from a traditional frame. Artwork on canvas is a great option too. Use Command Picture-Hanging Strips instead of nails and metal hardware to hang the artwork and do your best to mount it flush to the wall. There is a great tutorial on this method of picture hanging here.
- Hang Art at Eye Level - Most of the time artwork is hung at the eye level of an adult. Try hanging the artwork where your child can enjoy it - at their eye level, two or three feet off the ground.
- Choose Artwork Your Kids Will Love - This might sound obvious but it is very easy to get caught up in the fun of interior design and forget that this particular project is about engaging your kid. Children tend to be drawn to colorful images with plenty of contrast and well-defined shapes. It can also be fun to look for artwork that reflects your child's interests. CC is obsessed with cats so I made sure at least one of his prints featured cute kitties. Kids also love to look at faces of people they know. Adding a family portrait is likely to delight your little one.
- Invest In Art That Grows With Your Child - If you'd like to keep the same artwork hanging for years try to avoid buying pieces that are overly babyish. Look for artwork that would appeal to both toddlers and older kids.
Another really fun option is to forgo buying prints and make your own art instead. You can even include your little ones in the project. Check out my Sharing Art With Little Kids Pinterest Board for tons of great ideas. Here are a few to get you started:
I found myself in the midst of a totally stereotypical motherhood moment while going through CC's old clothes the other morning. When I pulled out the tiny little gender-ambiguous sleeper that he wore home on the day he was born it slayed me. He was so tiny when he was born - less than 5 1/5 pounds! Ten months later (has it really be that long?) he is a sturdy little chunk of a kid - resilient, adventurous, and hungry as ever.
He's almost a toddler and I feel like I'm already missing my baby boy - his sweet soft little cheeks, the way he lights up when I smile at him, the weight of his tiny body pressed against me when he's nursing. It hurts to know it won't last forever, that one day he won't let me scoop him up and stick my face into his hot little neck. Even if he likes me as a teenager he certainly won't want to sleep on my chest. That would be weird for both of us.
I know that I should be at least somewhat relieved to know that the rigorous pace of sleepless nights and demanding days won't last forever, but even as exhausted as I am I know that this has been the best year of my life. It's totally neurotic to be missing it now because I'm sad about missing it later. This is my daily challenge: to be present. To exist in the moment because it won't come again.
I read a book while I was pregnant filled with stories from Buddhists who'd had children. Though the stories differed from one to another, the takeaway was clear. Parenting is a spiritual practice - if you let it be. I've certainly found that to be true in my own experience. When I was pregnant I had to share my body with another person. I took that opportunity of discomfort and that lack of control as practice. If there was one thing I knew about life with children it was that it involved very little control and plenty of discomfort. It just started a little sooner than I realized. I reminded myself that I wasn't my body. My body is a vessel that I travel in, and it has room for someone I love. Even if that someone sticks his bony butt into my ribs at night.
Then there was labor, an ordeal that was endured one moment at a time. When each contraction hit I would count away the seconds as the wave rushed through me. I would let myself feel it and I would let it go. I knew if I let myself consider how much longer I would have to go through it I might panic, so I stayed there - minute to minute - until the morning came, and with it, transition.
Which brings us to birth, something utterly and unbelievably different for every woman. CC's took me quickly - like a force of nature. When my body decided it was time to push there was nothing on Earth that could have stopped it. In a way I had given myself over to birth, but the act of pushing granted a sense of control. I felt like I was working to bring my baby into the world, and even though it felt painful it still felt good - like a dam breaking or a cage opening up.
And after that? Well, they don't call birth a miracle for nothing. Witnessing such a miracle changed me. It pushed the boundaries of the world as I perceived it just a little further out. The edges of that new world became fuzzy and dilated as I focused in on my baby. One challenge I face now is to stop that world from shrinking down to just him. And it's hard! So much of me just wants to run away into myself, focus on nothing but my baby, and forget about the rest of the world. It's amazing how vulnerable I became the moment he was born. Suddenly it felt like my whole heart was detached from my body. And it's new owner looked so fragile and small!
But running away wouldn't do either of us any good. The very reason his baby clothes make me cry is the reason I have no right to hide him away. As much as I love him (and I do - like nothing else) I know he doesn't belong to me. I can only enjoy him. I can never own him - and he started moving away from me the moment he took his first breath. All I can do is try to be present now, and try to keep this time fresh in my heart so that I look back and enjoy it later.
Staying grounded in the present also goes a long way when it comes to enduring the less pleasant aspects of motherhood. Sleepless nights or long stretches of childcare while sick, stressed, exhausted, or all of the above can sometimes feel like torture. But these struggles can present excellent opportunities for Buddhist practice. I can't always (or more like EVER) change the fact that my baby is up all night, sick, teething, crabby, or fussing. What I can do is focus on eliminating the desire to be elsewhere. I can choose to stop wishing I were asleep or that someone would come through the door and take this squalling child off of my hands. I can decide to accept the situation as it is and be present for it.
Of course, this is not an easy thing to do. Monks spend lifetimes trying to break free from the cycle of desire and suffering. I don't expect myself to get there every time. But it gives me something to reach for - something that I believe serves me better than breaking into tears over how exhausted I am. (Believe me, sometimes I do that too.)
So during those nights where I find myself wondering how I'll stay awake one more minute while knowing I'll need to stay awake for at least one more hour, I reach for the present. I listen to the sound of his voice or the rhythm of is breath. I feel the weight of his little body in my arms, and the slow ticking of time as the hardship passes and he eventually goes back to sleep.
One night, around ten months ago I was leaning against the wall of my bathroom and thinking "Just one minute. I can survive anything for a minute." These days my mantra from labor has been replaced with "Just one year: 365 nights. He'll only be a baby once."
What are your strategies for getting through hard days and long nights? Do you struggle with letting your little one grow up and away?